This is a story which happened to a good friend of mine, A. She's been dating her boyfriend, S, for 4 1/2 years. They've been in a long-distance relationship for a couple of years due to their own studies.
However, for the past 7 months, that guy, S, have been having another relationship with another girl. This other girl is a Philipino girl who works at a pub. For the past 7 months, he have been lying to A. When he do see her, he can look into her eyes and tell her that he loves her, even though he's having an affair with the Philipino girl.
When he's out with the Philipino girl, and A calls, he would not answer her call. He would wait until he have sent the Philipino girl back home, then only he would answer A's call. He would give A many excuses such as 'I didnt hear my phone ring', or 'I was sleeping' or 'my phone battery died' or 'there's something wrong with my phone' and many others. I can write a book especially on the bullshit excuses he told.
Before A went back to the other state she studies in, he could look into her eyes and tell her that he loves her. He could look into her eyes and tell her that she is the only girl for him. He could tell her that his love for her is so strong that the both of them would never be apart. What a bloody jerk he was. He had a relationship and was sleeping with this Philipino girl, and he was lying to his girlfriend.
He had lied to A that he's broke because he had invested a lot of money for a business. The truth was that he had spend all his money on this Philipino girl. He bought her expensive gifts, took her out for fancy dinner, took her out for movies, when he go partying with the Philipino girl, he would spend everything. This is how he really got broke. He had cried to A that he's broke and his parents were not giving him any money. Basically he acted to be sad and depressed so that A would give him money. In the end, his tactic worked, A banked in RM500 for him. He took the money and spent it on the Philipino girl. Till now, he haven't returned A her money.
Last month, in September, while he was in the Philipino girl's house taking a shower, the Philipino girl answered his handphone when A was calling. The Philipino girl told A that in fact he have been dating the Philipino girl for a long time already. The Philipino girl told A that he told the Philipino girl that he had broken with A for 1 year already. The Philipino girl told A many other things.
When A confronted S, he told her that it was a prank. He told A that he met up with his secondary school friends, and he thought that it would be funny if he played a prank on A. He told A that it was J's girlfriend who played a prank on her. A wanted to talk to J's girlfriend to make sure that the story S was telling is the truth. But S told A that he was embarrassed to ask for J's girlfriend's number. A trusted S and believed his bullshit story. He is such a JERK!!
After this incident, S was still with the Philipino girl, sleeping with her whenever he wants. A told S that she would forgive him for the prank incident, but this made her trust towards him less. S told A that he will gain her trust back. S was a happy man, he managed to deceive A to believe his story.
2 weeks ago, S went to KL because his close friend just came back from Australia. S told the Philipino girl that he had to go to KL on a business trip. He told A that he wanted to see her. But the main reason S wanted to see her was that he wanted money from her. However, they had a quarrel, and she went back home without giving S any money. That night S called her and cried to her saying that he's very broke and that he came to KL to see her and he trusted her that she would give him money. A banked in money for S again, she had fell for his lies again.
Four days ago, A found out that the earlier prank was not a prank. A had spoken to the Philipino girl. She was trying to tell the Philipino girl that S was lying to her too. While the Philipino girl was talking to her, S grabbed the phone from the Philipino girl and told A not to disturb him and he had broken up with A 1 year ago. Actually, S was acting this out because he didnt want the Philipino girl to find out that he's still with A. S told the Philipino girl not to believe A and that my good friend, A, is behaving this way because she is still hurt.
Well, now my good friend, A, no longer wants to be with S after finding out that he had been cheating and lying to her. That jerk still don't want to admit his bloody mistakes to A or the Philipino girl. Hence, he's a 1st class JERK!!
I feel absolutely disgusted with S's attitude. He already has a nice and sweet girlfriend, and they have been a couple for 4 1/2 years. But he's still not satisfied, and threw away years of feelings and trust between them and have an affair with a Philipino girl.
I won't pretend that i'm an expert in love, or that i know everything that has happened between A and S, but i still think that if you no longer love someone, break out the news to your partner and make a clean break. Why bother making up so many lies to cover up more lies? What's the point in continuing a relationship if you can't practice fidelity and treasure the love and trust between you? Well, maybe there are reasons behind it all, but the fact still remains that you've cheated.
This is not posted with the intention of offending anyone or being bias etc. I just thought of sharing this story, to create an awareness that such thing do happen to people.
